Inspired Attire
Black Tie Formal
An evening of formal celebration calls for formal dress. Here's everything you need to know to get it right — for every member of the family.
We want everyone to look their best but, most importantly, we want you to be there to celebrate with us!
Wear your favorite formal outfit from any decade, anywhere in the world, or black tie.
What "Black Tie" Means
Black tie is the traditional dress code for formal evening events — think tuxedos, floor-length gowns, and polished accessories. It's a step above "formal" or "cocktail attire," and a step below white tie (no tailcoats required!). The goal is elegant, refined, and a little glamorous. We can't wait to celebrate with you dressed to the nines.
What to Wear for men
- Tuxedo — black or midnight navy, in wool or wool-blend. A classic notch or peak lapel in satin or grosgrain is ideal.
- Dress shirt — white, with a French cuff and a subtle pleat or pique front.
- Bow tie — black, silk or satin, self-tie preferred over a pre-tied or clip-on.
- Cummerbund or waistcoat — matches the lapel facing; optional but adds polish.
- Patent leather shoes — black oxfords or formal slip-ons, worn with thin black dress socks.
- Accessories — cufflinks and a simple wristwatch are perfect. Pocket squares are welcome but optional.
What to wear for Women
- Floor-length gown — the classic black tie choice, in any elegant fabric: silk, satin, velvet, or chiffon.
- Tea-length or midi dress — a sophisticated alternative, especially in luxe fabrics with structure.
- Dressy jumpsuit — a chic, modern option if it's formal in fabric and cut.
- Heels or formal flats — polished and elegant; comfort matters for a night of dancing.
- Wrap or shawl — a lovely addition for cooler evenings, in silk, velvet, or faux fur.
- Accessories — fine jewelry, a clutch, and an elegant updo or styled hair complete the look.
The Details That Matter
A Quick Guide
Lovely Choices
Best Saved for Another Day
Best Saved for Another Day
- Black, navy, or deep jewel-toned tuxedos and suits
- Floor-length, midi, or tea-length formal gowns
- Rich fabrics — velvet, satin, silk, lace
- Polished shoes — no scuffed sneakers in sight
- A pocket square, a clutch, a great pair of earrings
Best Saved for Another Day
Best Saved for Another Day
Best Saved for Another Day
- T-shirts/Tank Tops
- Short skirts/dresses or casual sundresses
- Sneakers, sandals, or flip-flops
- Jeans, shorts, denim, or casual separates
- Costume-y or novelty accessories
- Graphic clothing
For the Little Ones
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For the Little Ones
We love seeing children dressed up too — but comfort comes first. Boys look wonderful in a suit with a bow tie or simple tie, and girls in a party dress in a complementary dark or jewel-toned color. There's no need for full tuxedos or gowns; a "Sunday best" formal outfit fits right in.
If Black Tie Isn't in the Closet
We want you there, dressed comfortably and confidently — not stressed about a closet full of the "right" thing. Black tie is a guideline, not a gate. Here are a few easy, affordable ways to put together a look that fits right in.
Rent it
- Suit & tux rental — Services like Generation Tux, The Black Tux, or a local formalwear shop offer full rentals (jacket, shirt, bow tie, shoes) often for less than $100.
- Dress rental — Sites like Rent the Runway or Nuuly let you borrow a designer gown for a fraction of retail, returned after the big night.
- Local shops — Many towns have formalwear rental counters inside menswear or bridal stores — a quick fitting is usually all it takes.
Borrow or Restyle
- Ask around — A friend or family member's gown, suit, or tux might be a perfect (or near-perfect) fit, and a tailor can adjust the rest.
- Dress up what you own — A simple dark dress or suit becomes black tie–appropriate with the right accessories: statement jewelry, a pocket square, a bow tie, or a pair of dressy shoes.
- Thrift & consignment — Secondhand and consignment shops are a great source for quality formalwear at a fraction of the original price.
The Bottom Line
A dark, well-fitted suit or a simple elegant dress with thoughtful accessories will always look right. We'd far rather see your smiling face than worry about an outfit — please don't let attire keep you from celebrating with us.
— With love —
If you have any questions about what to wear, please don't hesitate to reach out. We can't wait to celebrate this evening with all of you, dressed in your finest.
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